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You know that sinking feeling when you wake up with a hangover and think: “I’m never doing this again”? We’ve all been there. But what happens when you follow through? Sonia Kahlon and Kathleen Killen can tell you, because they did it! They went from sisters-in-law, to Sisters in Sobriety.
In this podcast, Sonia and Kathleen invite you into their world, as they navigate the ups and downs of sobriety, explore stories of personal growth and share their journey of wellness and recovery.
Get ready for some real, honest conversations about sobriety, addiction, and everything in between. Episodes will cover topics such as: reaching emotional sobriety, how to make the decision to get sober, adopting a more mindful lifestyle, socializing without alcohol, and much more.
Whether you’re sober-curious, seeking inspiration and self-care through sobriety, or embracing the alcohol-free lifestyle already… Tune in for a weekly dose of vulnerability, mutual support and much needed comic relief. Together, let’s celebrate the transformative power of sisterhood in substance recovery!
Kathleen Killen is a registered psychotherapist (qualifying) and certified coach based in Ontario, Canada. Her practice is centered on relational therapy and she specializes in couples and working with individuals who are navigating their personal relationships.
Having been through many life transitions herself, Kathleen has made it her mission to help others find the support and communication they need in their closest relationships. To find out more about Kathleen’s work, check out her website.
Sonia Kahlon is a recovery coach and former addict. She grappled with high-functioning alcohol use disorder throughout her life, before getting sober in 2016. Sonia is now the founder of EverBlume, a digital tool that offers a unique approach to alcohol recovery support.
Over the last five years, she has appeared on successful sobriety platforms, such as the Story Exchange, the Sobriety Diaries podcast and the Sober Curator, to tell her story of empowerment and addiction recovery, discuss health and midlife sobriety, and share how she is thriving without alcohol.
Her online platform EverBlume launched in February 2023, and was featured in Recovery Today Magazine and deemed an ‘essential sobriety resource’ by the FemTech Insider.
The company champions self-improvement and mindful sobriety, with support groups designed by and for women struggling with alcohol.
So how can EverBlume help you meet your sober community? By offering deeply personalized support. Members get matched based on their profiles and life experiences, and take part in small group sessions (max. 16 people). In your support group, you will meet like-minded women, discuss your experiences, and gain confidence, knowing you can rely on your peers in times of need.
Whether you identify as a binge drinker, someone who developed a habit during the Covid-19 pandemic, a high-functioning alcoholic, or an anxious person using alcohol to self-soothe… There is a support group for you!
Current EverBlume members have praised the company’s unique approach to alcohol detox. “No one is judging me for not being sure I want to be sober for the rest of my life” ; “I felt so heard and understood and today I woke up feeling empowered to make the change in my life”.
Feeling inspired? Learn more about the EverBlume sobriety community at joineverblume.com, or simply listen to Sisters In Sobriety.
Your sobriety success story starts today, with Kathleen and Sonia. Just press play!
[00:00:00] Welcome to another Q& A episode where we answer questions from our [00:01:00] listeners. And the question today was, I don't really feel ready to stop drinking completely, but I really want to be more mindful of my drinking. How do I do that? And is it really worth it? And we understand that the path to changing your relationship with alcohol isn't a one size fits all.
[00:01:20] And many of you have reached out with this question about how to cultivate a healthier, more controlled approach to drinkingRather than just abstinence. And a lot of you self identify as gray area drinkers, so where you feel like your drinking habits need to change but don't require sobriety.
[00:01:38] And this is actually a pretty significant and often overlooked segment of our community. They just want to redefine their relationship with alcohol. So today we're going to dive deep into those questions, offer insights, and share some strategies to support your goals of moderation. We believe in the power of informed choices, self awareness, and the [00:02:00] strength of our community to navigate these challenges together.
[00:02:03] So whether you're contemplating moderation for the first time, or looking for ways to maintain a mindful relationship with alcohol, this episode is for you. So, it is completely understandable to have mixed feelings about changing your relationship with alcohol. so let's start with the part of the question, is it worth it?
[00:02:23] Absolutely, being more mindful about your drinking can lead to so many benefits, including improved physical health, stronger relationships, better mental health, and moderating your alcohol intake, like limiting yourself to one to two drinks per night, or making sure you have alcohol free days in between drinking days, can make a big
[00:02:46] difference in your overall well being and making this a pretty practical and achievable approach for a lot of people. So here are some benefits to reducing your alcohol consumption. Here are a [00:03:00] few physical health benefits. Reduced risk of chronic illness. So limiting your alcohol intake can decrease the risk of developing chronic conditions like liver disease.
[00:03:12] heart disease, and certain types of cancer. Improved liver function, alcohol is a major cause of liver disease, including fatty liver, hepatitis, and cirrhosis. So cutting back on alcohol can significantly reduce liver fat and inflammation, allowing your liver to repair and function more effectively. Better heart health.
[00:03:35] Reducing alcohol intake can lower your risk of developing heart disease. Benefits of decreasing your alcohol intake are decreased blood pressure, reduced risk of heart failure, and a lower likelihood of experiencing an irregular heartbeat or atrial fibrillation. Better sleep quality. We all know that drinking affects our sleep patterns, and the more we drink, [00:04:00] the lower our sleep quality.
[00:04:02] And although alcohol might help you fall asleep faster, which it did for me, it really impaired the quality of my sleep. And it especially impairs your sleep. REM sleep, which is crucial for memory and learning. So reducing your alcohol intake can lead to more restful and restorative sleep. Weight management
[00:04:24] by cutting back on the number of drinks, you're also reducing the intake of empty calories, which supports your weight management efforts. So if you've been feeling stuck in that department and reducing your alcohol intake, maybe the jumpstart you need, you'll have more energy, better sleep for those painful early morning workouts.
[00:04:45] So, improved, also improved digestion. Less alcohol means less irritation to your digestive system, which can lead to improved digestion and nutrient absorption. And we'll do a whole [00:05:00] episode on this in a couple of weeks. Better immune function. Regular heavy drinking can weaken your immune system, making your body more susceptible to infections.
[00:05:11] Cutting back on alcohol can improve your body's ability to fight off illnesses. So here are some mental health improvements you'll experience by cutting back on your alcohol intake. So improved mood and mental clarity. So better stress management. Alcohol, while often used as a self soothing measure for stress, anxiety, and depression symptoms, which is what I used it for, can significantly worsen these feelings over time.
[00:05:42] Its depressive effects on the brain can dampen your mood, decrease your mental clarity, and lead to a cycle where drinking becomes the coping mechanism for the very issue. So when you reduce or eliminate alcohol consumption, [00:06:00] you may notice a big improvement in your overall mood, an overall decrease in anxiety levels, an enhancement in mental clarity and cognitive function, and this changes partly because your brain begins to recover from the depressive effects of alcohol, and it allows for your natural neurotransmitter levels to Stabilize and improve brain function.
[00:06:23] Also, the interaction between antidepressants, anti anxiety medications, and alcohol can be pretty complicated. Alcohol can interfere with the effectiveness of these medications, reduce their efficacy, and in some cases, lead to adverse effects. So for people on those medications, reducing or abstaining from alcohol is often recommended to ensure the best outcome.
[00:06:50] Possible mental health outcomes.
[00:06:55] And, like we talked about, increased energy levels, so by improving your sleep [00:07:00] quality and reducing the depressive effects of alcohol on your nervous system, cutting back on drinking can lead to higher energy levels and enhanced emotional well being. You can improve your emotional resilience and stability, and that really leads to stronger relationships and an overall more fulfilling life.
[00:07:19] So here are a few strategies to consider as you navigate moderation. First, reflect on your drinking habits. So start by observing your current drinking patterns without judgment. Keep a diary for a week or two, noting down what you drink, how much, when, and in what context. This can help you identify triggers or situations where you might drink more than you intend.
[00:07:49] This way, you're paying attention to how much you're drinking and the reasons behind it. And this mindfulness can help you make more conscious choices about your alcohol consumption. [00:08:00] Two, set clear intentions. So think about why you want to be more mindful of your drinking. Is it for health reasons? Is it to improve relationships?
[00:08:09] Is it to just regain control over certain aspects of your life? So setting clear intentions can help guide your actions and decisions. Create personal guidelines. So, based on your reflections and your intentions, set some personal guidelines for your drinking. This might include limits on the number of drinks per occasion.
[00:08:32] Specific days for not drinking at all, or rules about not drinking in certain situations. And these guidelines should feel realistic and achievable for you. Discover new activities. We love this at Sisters in Sobriety. Find hobbies or activities that you enjoy that don't involve drinking. And this can reduce the temptation to drink out of boredom or out of habit.
[00:08:55] So plan well for those alcohol free days. Here are a few [00:09:00] strategies for situations where you are trying to reduce your consumption, and some of them may seem a little simplistic, but they work. Drink slowly. So take time with your drink. Sip it slowly. Put your glass down between sips. That gives your body more time to process the alcohol and can help you stick to your limit.
[00:09:21] Start with a non alcoholic drink. So before you start drinking alcohol, have a Before you start drinking alcohol, have a non alcoholic drink like water or soda or mocktail and this can help reduce your thirst and slow down your alcohol consumption. Swap out one or two drinks for a low or no alcohol alternative during each drinking occasion and this can help you reduce your consumption over the evening.
[00:09:48] Or for every alcoholic drink have a glass of water. This is kind of an old technique. This helps you stay hydrated, can reduce the amount of alcohol you consume, and also may help prevent a [00:10:00] hangover. Avoid drinking on an empty stomach. Eating before or while you drink can slow the absorption of alcohol, helping moderate its effects on your body and mind.
[00:10:12] Practice refusal skills. Be prepared with a polite but firm way to decline a drink if you've reached your limit or you're not drinking that day. Having a response ready can make it easier to stick to your goals. And explore these low or no alcohol alternatives. Choosing these alternatives is a really strategic and effective way to manage and reduce your overall alcohol consumption.
[00:10:40] and really this shift helps you in moderating Without completely abstaining. Here is a deep dive into some strategies for swapping out low or no. Low or no alcohol alternatives. So explore the variety.
[00:10:54] The market for low and no alcohol beverages has grown significantly, offering a [00:11:00] wide range of options including beers, wines, and spirits, and you can experiment to find your favorites. We also have a Mocktail Hour segment where we review and recommend certain non alcoholic beverages.
[00:11:15] Low alcohol options. There's always light beer, a wine spritzer, or a diluted spirit. That can help you control your intake while still participating in social situations. Get creative with mocktails. There's an art to making delicious non alcoholic cocktails. Use fresh ingredients, herbs, and spices to create complex flavors that don't rely on alcohol.
[00:11:43] Social support. Share your choice with friends and family. Have a support system or even a buddy who is also interested in reducing their alcohol intake and can make the process more enjoyable and sustainable. While you may not feel ready for traditional [00:12:00] recovery programs, finding a supportive community or even one person who understands and respects your desire to be more mindful can make a significant difference.
[00:12:11] This support can come in many forms, like recovery groups tailored to various needs, therapist or recovery coach.
[00:12:23] I run meetings at EveroBloom where we are very open to people that are moderating and We talk about different techniques and tools that work, whether you want to moderate or completely abstain from alcohol.
[00:12:37] Celebrate your progress. Recognize and celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem. Each step you take towards being more mindful of your drinking is a positive move towards a healthier and more controlled relationship with alcohol. Remember, the path to mindfulness about drinking is personal, and what works for one person may not work for [00:13:00] another, so it is okay to explore different strategies and adjust your approach as you learn what works best for you.
[00:13:07] Your journey is yours alone, and taking it one step at a time is perfectly okay.