Recovering out Loud

Most people don't relapse because they wanted to drink. They relapse because they were still chasing pleasure — just in a legal package.

Anthony had 7.5 years of sober time before he picked up. In this episode, he breaks down the real reason long-term sobriety unravels: the war between pleasure and meaning, and why the recovery world is full of people white-knuckling a life they were never trained to actually want.

Covered in this episode: – The hedonic treadmill and why every "high" eventually feels like baseline – Anna Lembke's pleasure-pain balance (from Dopamine Nation) – Bruce Alexander's Rat Park study and why connection beats the lever – Cross-addiction: gym, golf, Instagram, work, achievement — the "ism swap" – Viktor Frankl, Dr. Joseph Lee, and the iPhone-vs-house metaphor that changed how Anthony sees addiction – Why "I don't need to feel good. I need to do good." is the line he comes back to

If you're newly sober and bored, or years in and quietly restless — this one's for you.

New episodes Tuesdays. Recovering Out Loud — real stories of addiction and recovery, no clinical voice, no guru energy.

Is alcohol the problem, or is the person holding the glass? Anthony breaks down the science, the shame, and the honest answer most people in recovery won't say out loud.

Full description:

Is alcohol the problem — or is the person drinking it? It's one of the most argued questions in addiction recovery, and how you answer it changes everything about how you get sober and stay sober.

In this solo episode of Recovering Out Loud, host Anthony — alcoholic, addict, and addiction counselor in training — pushes back on the growing "alcohol is the villain" movement on social media and asks the harder question: if alcohol were really the problem, why do most drinkers never develop alcohol use disorder? And why did rehab alone never keep him sober?

Anthony walks through the neuroscience (GABA, dopamine, why alcohol withdrawal can kill you), the genetics (50–60% heritability, AMA's 1956 disease classification), the 12-step "allergy" model, and the critical difference between guilt and shame in recovery. Then he lands on the answer most camps refuse to hold: both are true. Alcohol is genuinely addictive AND the person has the capacity to change.

If you've ever wondered whether you're "broken," whether you can ever drink normally again, or why the just-drink-like-a-normal-person advice feels so damaging — this one's for you.

Topics covered:

• Why "alcohol is the problem" is the wrong frame for people in recovery
• The neuroscience of alcohol addiction (GABA, dopamine, the reward pathway)
• Why alcohol and benzo withdrawal can be fatal
• DSM-5 alcohol use disorder criteria and WHO global stats
• Heritability, co-occurring mental health disorders, and the 14% who develop AUD
• The 12-step allergy metaphor and its critics
• Disease model vs. agency model — and why both matter
• Guilt vs. shame in addiction recovery
• Why the anti-alcohol movement misses the point
• Anthony's relapse at 7.5 years sober and what he learned

Mentioned in this episode:

• DSM-5 alcohol use disorder criteria
• AMA 1956 disease classification
• Dr. Nick Heather's "complex learning disorder" model
• WHO data on alcohol-related deaths (5.3% globally)
• Previous episode: Is Alcoholism a Disease or a Choice?
• Previous episode on peptides

Connect:

• Instagram: @recoveringoutloudpod
• Recovery is simple, not easy.

Emily returns to Recovering Out Loud mid-relapse to announce she's ending her own sobriety podcast. This is by far The most raw and vunerable conversation we've had on chronic relapse, identity in recovery, and what happens when "sober Sally" disappears.

Emily came on the first season of Recovering Out Loud almost two years sober, running her own recovery podcast Talks on the Rocks. She's back — and she's fighting addiction demons every day.

In this episode, Emily opens up about chronically relapsing on cocaine and alcohol, why she's putting her sobriety podcast on pause, and what it feels like to be the "sober girl" online while crying in the bathroom rolling up a bill she doesn't want to use. We talk about the Mother's Day relapse, the overdose from fentanyl-laced cocaine that nearly killed her, the hole in her septum, dating apps as a relapse trigger, isolation, and the identity crisis of taking a new sales job that puts her in clubs and at open bars for a living.

Anthony shares his own seven-and-a-half-year relapse and why "the obsession of every addict is that one day they'll control it again." If you've ever relapsed after long-term sobriety, struggled with chronic relapse, or felt like a fraud in your own recovery — this one is for you.

Topics covered:

• Why she's ending her sobriety podcast
• Chronic relapse after almost 2 years sober
• Cocaine addiction, septum damage, and using alone
• The Mother's Day relapse
• The fentanyl overdose at work
• Dating apps and addiction
• Identity in recovery: who are you when you're not "the sober one"?
• Why we don't pick up the phone even when we have hundreds of numbers
• Self-pity, shame, and starting over

If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, please reach out to a local recovery resource. In the US: SAMHSA National Helpline 1-800-662-4357. In Canada: Wellness Together 1-866-585-0445.

Recovering Out Loud is hosted by Anthony. New episodes weekly.

Struggling to move forward in recovery — even when you're "doing everything right"? That might be resistance. And it probably doesn't look the way you think it does.

In this episode of Recovering Out Loud, Anthony breaks down 5 forms of resistance that hide in plain sight in addiction recovery — the ones that feel like growth, look like progress, and get socially rewarded, but are quietly keeping you stuck.

Whether you're newly sober, years into recovery, or struggling to get back after a relapse — this episode is for you.

Topics covered:

• Why staying busy might be your new drug
• The difference between research mode and recovery mode
• How self-sabotage shows up when life starts going well
• Why chaos feels comfortable and stability feels wrong
• Performing recovery vs. actually doing it
• Pain × Resistance = Suffering — and how to reduce it

If you've ever felt stuck in sobriety, struggled with self-sabotage, or wondered why you can't seem to follow through — this one hits different.

Recovering Out Loud is peer-led recovery media built on lived experience. No clinical voice. No guru energy. Real stories of addiction and sobriety from someone still in it.

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In this episode:

• The 5 forms of resistance hiding in plain sight
• Why busy is the most socially rewarded skip button available
• Research mode vs. recovery mode — and why you're probably in the wrong one
• Why chaos feels like home and calm feels like a warning sign
• The difference between performing recovery and doing it
• Pain × Resistance = Suffering — and what to do with that

Notes:

• The equation pain × resistance = suffering is rooted in Buddhist philosophy and popularized in modern mindfulness by teacher Shinzen Young — it's one of the most useful frames I've come across in recovery.
• The concept of Resistance as a force that blocks creative and personal work was written about extensively by Steven Pressfield in The War of Art — worth a read if this episode hit you.
• The idea of research mode vs. recovery mode — consuming content instead of taking action — is something I see constantly working in the addiction space. It's real, it's common, and it's not your fault. But awareness is the first step through it.
• The unsexy work: sleep, food, water, one human contact a day. The research on sleep alone as a factor in addiction recovery and relapse prevention is significant — [general reference: NIDA, sleep and substance use disorder literature].

People in recovery are being deliberately targeted by the peptide industry — and most of us don't even realize it.
In this episode, Anthony breaks down how the influencer ecosystem profits from the exact vulnerability that early recovery creates: the desperate need to feel better, faster. Post-acute withdrawal syndrome is real, the brain genuinely takes time to heal, and predatory actors are filling that gap with products instead of solutions.
He covers what most peptide promoters won't tell you — the regulatory status, the evidence gap, the relapse risk hidden in the behaviors around self-injection and secrecy, and the questions you should be asking before anyone sells you anything in recovery.
This isn't anti-peptide. It's pro-honesty.
Three questions to ask before you try anything being sold in recovery spaces — and what actually worked for Anthony when nothing external did.
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Topics covered:
• Why people in early recovery are the easiest people to sell to
• How the influencer affiliate model works — and who profits from your discount code
• The regulatory and evidence reality behind the most-promoted peptide compounds
• The relapse risk nobody in the wellness space is talking about
• What peer-reviewed evidence actually requires vs. what's being passed off as proof
• Three questions to ask before anything in recovery gets sold to you
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Mentioned Studies:

BPC-157 — FDA status (unapproved drug, Category 2)

• Operation Supplement Safety (US Dept. of Defense): https://www.opss.org/article/bpc-157-prohibited-peptide-and-unapproved-drug-found-health-and-wellness-products
• FDA Warning Letter — Summit Research Peptides (Dec 2024): https://www.fda.gov/inspections-compliance-enforcement-and-criminal-investigations/warning-letters/summit-research-peptides-695607-12102024
• FDA Warning Letters search page: https://www.fda.gov/inspections-compliance-enforcement-and-criminal-investigations/compliance-actions-and-activities/warning-letters

BPC-157 — WADA prohibited substance

• USADA: https://www.usada.org/spirit-of-sport/bpc-157-peptide-prohibited/

The human trials problem — only 1 human study out of 544 articles reviewed

• American Journal of Sports Medicine systematic review (Vasireddi et al., 2025 — 544 articles screened, 35 preclinical, 1 clinical): https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/15563316251355551
• Arnold's Pump Club plain-language summary of that review: https://arnoldspumpclub.com/blogs/newsletter/bpc-157-the-miracle-peptide-that-s-been-tested-in-only-1-human-trial

The single research group problem

• STAT News / Undark investigation (Feb 2026 — "nearly all data comes from a single research group"): https://www.statnews.com/2026/02/03/bpc-157-peptide-science-safety-regulatory-questions/

NAD therapy — not approved for addiction, evidence is small studies only

• WebMD: https://www.webmd.com/mental-health/addiction/nad-therapy-addiction
• Addiction Center: https://www.addictioncenter.com/treatment/nad-therapy/

PAWS — Post-Acute Withdrawal Syndrome

• Hazelden Betty Ford: https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/articles/post-acute-withdrawal-syndrome