Self Help Show

What emotional state is making your decisions?

In this solo episode of The Self Help Show, Gina explores how anger, fear, panic, jealousy, hurt, peace, love, dignity, and self-respect can completely change the choices we make.

A temporary emotion can create a permanent consequence.

That is why emotional intelligence is not about ignoring what you feel. It is about knowing which emotions deserve to be heard and which ones should not be making major decisions for you.

This episode is an invitation to pause before reacting, return to a higher emotional state, and make decisions you can still respect tomorrow.

In this episode:

• Why anger can create decisions we later regret
• The danger of making permanent choices from temporary emotions
• How fear, panic, revenge, and humiliation affect judgment
• Why emotions are information, not always instruction
• How to pause before reacting
• The difference between feeling an emotion and acting from it
• Why love, peace, dignity, patience, and self-respect create better decisions
• How to make firm decisions without making them from anger
• Why sometimes the best decision is to make no decision yet
• How to choose an emotional state before choosing an action

Questions to sit with:

What emotional state is making this decision?

Would I make the same choice if I were peaceful right now?

Am I choosing from anger, fear, pride, or revenge?

What would love choose?

What would dignity choose?

What would self-respect choose?

Will I still respect this decision tomorrow?

And perhaps the biggest question:

Who do you want to be when life gives you every reason to react?

You are allowed to feel everything.

But not every emotion needs decision-making power.

Feel it. Pause. Return to yourself. Then choose.

What if your body already knows how to heal, and the secret lies in learning when to get out of its way?

In this eye-opening episode of The Self Help Show, Gina sits down with Loren Lockman, a therapeutic fasting expert with more than 30 years of experience in natural health and water-only fasting, to explore the extraordinary intelligence of the human body and its capacity for self-healing.

Loren is the founder and former director of Tanglewood Wellness Center, which he led for 29 years. During that time, he oversaw more than 12,000 supervised water-only fasts. Today, through Fast To Rise, he continues to educate people around the world about therapeutic fasting, optimal nutrition, and sustainable well-being.

Together, we explore a fascinating possibility: What if achieving better health isn't always about adding more, but about removing what interferes with the body's natural processes?

From fasting and detoxification to hydration, longevity, and the connection between physical and emotional well-being, this conversation invites you to rethink everything you thought you knew about taking care of your body.

This conversation is an invitation to become curious about your body, reconnect with its intelligence, and discover a different perspective on what it means to be truly well.

🎁 Free Resource: Ancient Secrets of Healing

Curious about natural healing and water fasting?

Loren has generously shared a free guide, Ancient Secrets of Healing, as an introduction to his approach to health, fasting, and the body's natural healing capacity.

Download your free guide: https://www.fasttorise.com/fasttorise-freeguide

🌎 Connect With Loren Lockman

Website: https://www.fasttorise.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lorenlockman.official/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/loren.lockman

YouTube (New Channel): https://www.youtube.com/@lorenlockman_official

YouTube (Original Channel): https://www.youtube.com/@LorenLockman

🎙️ About The Self Help Show

The Self Help Show is a space for thought-provoking conversations, fresh perspectives, personal discovery, and becoming the most authentic version of yourself.

Hosted by Gina, the show brings together extraordinary minds, experts, and individuals with remarkable experiences to challenge conventional thinking, expand awareness, and inspire meaningful transformation.

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✨ One Last Thought

What if your body isn't asking you to do more, but inviting you to listen more closely?

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What If Your Life Was Never Meant to Follow a Template?

What if the life that fits you best was never supposed to look like anyone else’s?

In this solo episode of The Self Help Show, Gina explores uniqueness, authenticity, self-trust, and the confidence that comes from understanding your own configuration instead of constantly measuring yourself against other people’s methods.

There is no other person with your exact combination of experience, perspective, ability, instincts, interests, timing, and imagination.

So why would your life need to follow an exact template?

This episode is about paying closer attention to the clues that reveal who you naturally are, what consistently works for you, what you may have been editing or minimizing, and what becomes possible when you stop trying to be universally understandable and start becoming more fully yourself.

In this episode:

• How to recognize the patterns that make you uniquely you
• Why authenticity begins with self-observation
• How outside expectations can quietly shape your identity
• What your natural strengths, curiosities, and preferences reveal
• Why your differences are valuable information
• How to learn from others without losing your own voice
• Why confidence grows when you trust your own configuration
• How to build methods, routines, and choices that actually fit you
• The importance of owning what makes you different
• Why your life can become more powerful as it becomes more specific to you

Questions to sit with:

Who are you when nobody is influencing you?

What do you naturally do well?

What keeps returning to you throughout your life?

What parts of yourself have you been editing or minimizing?

What do you secretly know about yourself?

What would your life look like if you trusted your uniqueness completely?

And most importantly:

Who are you when you are no longer trying to be understandable to everybody else?

Your life does not have to be a copy.

You can learn from others, take what helps, leave what does not, and still create something entirely your own.

Your configuration is the clue. Your authenticity is the direction. Your confidence grows when you trust both.

What Do You Regret the Most? Self-Condemnation & the Stories We Keep Punishing Ourselves With

What if the thing you regret most is no longer something you need to punish yourself for?

In this solo episode of The Self Help Show, Gina explores regret, hindsight, self-forgiveness, and the invisible ways we can keep ourselves trapped through self-condemnation.

Sometimes the event happened once, but we keep replaying it internally for years. We reopen old decisions, prosecute former versions of ourselves, and use the past as evidence against who we are today.

But what happens when you stop asking, “Why did I do that?” and start asking, “What did this teach me?”

Gina reflects on decisions she once believed she would regret, only to later realize that many of them redirected her, protected her, clarified her values, or ultimately worked in her favour.

This episode is an invitation to separate learning from punishment.

Because growth does not require a lifelong sentence.

In this episode:

• Why hindsight can make us unfairly judge our former selves
• How regret can quietly become self-condemnation
• The difference between accountability and self-punishment
• Why constantly reopening old decisions can weaken self-trust
• How to reinterpret choices that once felt like mistakes
• Why endings, losses, and redirections can make sense later
• How to keep the lesson without carrying the punishment
• Learning to back the person you were with the knowledge you have now

Questions to sit with:

What are you still sentencing yourself for?

How long do you believe you need to suffer before you are allowed to forgive yourself?

What if the decision you regret actually redirected your life?

What did that experience teach you?

And what are you finally ready to stop using against yourself?

Decision closed. Lesson received. No punishment required.

The Terrifying Reason 93% of "Good People" Accidentally Ruin Their Own Lives

What if the life you're building isn't actually the life you want?

In this episode of The Self Help Show, Gina-Margaret Tiger sits down with Shemeka Joseph, certified life and wellness coach, mentor, speaker, and founder of Creating the Dream.

Together, they explore how family, culture, work, religion, social media, algorithms, and comparison can quietly shape the life we think we want, and how to reconnect with what genuinely feels true.

Shemeka also shares her Five Rights Framework:

The right idea, at the right time, for the right reasons, with the right people = the right result.

In This Episode

• How to recognize when you're living by other people's expectations
• Why sitting with yourself can reveal what you actually want
• Emotional signs that your life may feel out of alignment
• How social media and algorithms influence desire
• Why many people know what they don't want but struggle to name what they do want
• How to begin dreaming again
• The difference between inspiration and programming
• Why peace and joy can help you identify what feels genuinely yours
• Shemeka's Five Rights Framework
• Letting go of people when your paths no longer align

Connect With Shemeka

Website: https://creatingthedream.com

Alternate Website: https://creatingthedream.ca

Socials: Search Shemeka S. Joseph

Book: The Five Rights to Alignment

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